Define your own success; don't let others tell you what to do.
Updated: May 4
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What is success? Who decides what or who is deemed successful or not? Why bother trying to be successful when you know the critics are just around the corner waiting to put you down? We often fall into the trap of constantly comparing ourselves and our success to others. Unfortunately, we risk feeling unsatisfied with our lives by doing this.
Especially if we spend a lot of time at home or work from home, we are judged by others who feel we are just lazy or wasting time at home and you know that's just not true!
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Most of us feel like we failed at some point in our lives due to society's pressures and constraints. When you're in your teens, you're expected to have all these goals and aspirations. Then in your twenties, you're expected to land that awesome job, become financially independent, find a "good" partner, and move into your first home. In your thirties, everyone asks you about children or why you're not trying to climb the corporate ladder. Luckily, more and more people are beginning to realize that you don't have to do all those things and it's okay if you can't.
It seems there is a societal awakening because more and more people are beginning to do their own thing. Whether it's being a full-time creative, a freelancer, working for a start-up, or doing side gigs to make extra cash, new work opportunities are changing the economy. Even today, if you tell someone you work from home or you freelance / run an online business, people tend to tell you to get a 'real' job. What these people fail to realize is that now, more than ever, you can be successful without working the 9-5 office job. Success doesn't necessarily mean a six-figure salary. Not everyone measures success in financial terms. Success can be measured/defined in terms of career satisfaction, life-work balance, or social value and impact. If you are happy with what you are doing, whatever that may be, you should consider yourself a successful person, and please stop caring about what anyone thinks or says about you. The best way to gain confidence is to be content with what you have so that you can develop, grow, and improve constantly. Success is what you want it to be and you should NOT let others define success for you.
There are so many free and affordable resources to make learning on your own possible and many e-courses and e-books will teach you how to create your own online business or further your freelancing career. For example, you can now buy e-books to learn affiliate marketing, blogging, and even how to create a successful Etsy store!
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