Live the Life You Want and Stay True to Yourself
I’m sure you’ve experienced those moments of doubt – when you feel like you just don’t fully believe in yourself. An even worse feeling is that of self-loathing or lack of self-acceptance.
What I’ve learned over the years is that one of the main reasons I used to feel unworthy was because I was listening to what other people were saying about me and telling me to do.
Therefore, I was NOT true to myself. I would do things just to PLEASE OTHERS. And that is toxic behavior, or at least that’s my opinion. I ended up comparing myself to others and I felt hopeless. But, I was just lacking self-acceptance and confidence, which is so important these days.
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This leads me to two key questions that need to be answered:
1. Why do I need the approval of other people to validate my own worth?
2. Why am I afraid of being true to myself?
It’s time to stop putting on masks to act and be the people we think others want to see. As Brene Brown teaches us, "embrace who you are" and stop fearing what others think.
Every person has a unique character and personality, and letting it shine through is the best thing one can do.
I am a woman who hates convention, and I’ve hated doing things the way society tells us we should do them. But now, at 29, I can finally say that I no longer care about what people say about me or my lifestyle.
I used to be afraid about expressing my honest opinions, and a few times, I acted in a way that isn’t true to myself. I’ve stopped this nonsense behavior, and I encourage you to do the same.
Don’t feel like you have to seek anyone’s approval. Just do you, your way, on your own terms. Once you learn who you are, let the real you shine through.
The lesson to take away is the following:
Learn to love and appreciate yourself wholly, and you will notice the world around you change for the better. Your relationships will improve, and life will feel a bit more satisfying.
I'm discussing so many cliche concepts right now. Let me tell you, and I KNOW how ANNOYING the whole “self-love” thing can be when you’re not in the right mindset. But if you can’t figure out how to love yourself and present yourself to the world, you’ll have a hard time evolving.
Take the time to listen to your inner voice. Follow your gut instincts, your intuition, and stand up for your beliefs. This way, you can find out who YOU really are. You are an individual full of potential and full of WORTH.
Listen when I tell you that you don’t need to conform to what the world around you wants you to be. You need to discover who YOU really are and then gather the courage to let the real you be you.
After all, does it matter what others think of us? Are we really going to feel happier if everybody praises us upfront? Well, probably not.
Non-acceptance of ourselves is one of the biggest enemies. It creeps up all the time and infuses our minds with insecurities that are just toxic thoughts. They aren’t even valid reasons for self-doubt or self-hate.
The good news is that you can always elevate or improve yourself. You can change the things you don’t like, or at least improve them considerably. Once you embrace the idea of change, you can accept whatever comes your way, and you can emerge victoriously.
Live life freely and enjoy doing the things that YOU love to do. Live life the way YOU want to. Don’t listen to everybody’s two cents on everything. Sure, there are times when listening to others is helpful. But, don’t let others be the source of your self-doubt.
Where does the sense of disapproval and self-doubt come from?
Most likely from childhood, or you experienced certain things in your life that made you fearful and doubtful.
If you experienced disapproval in your childhood years, you probably came to accept this silly generalization that I am unacceptable since others did not accept me.
But are you? I’m sure you’ve done and still do great things in your career, your relationships, your family life, etc.
You must learn to step back and put all these negative thoughts away and see things differently. You need to realize that people act the way they know how to. Most of the time, you can’t change people. If they don’t like you, then move on…it’s not worth wasting your time trying to gain approval. You might never even get it even if you do everything right.
Don’t listen to people who put you down and tell you to doubt yourself. The biggest mistake is giving in to self-sabotaging thoughts. It is up to you now to rid yourself of these self-sabotaging thoughts and face reality.
Face it, we are not all perfect, and that’s a GOOD THING! Imagine if everyone was exactly the same, life would be far more boring. We have to realize that we are all human. The best thing to do is face reality and love yourself for the person you are.
That means accepting the good and the bad. We all make mistakes; we all have weaknesses. This doesn’t mean that we stop trying to improve ourselves, but we must stop condemning ourselves and learn to live happily and confidently.
Always be true to yourself. Don’t compromise your morals, beliefs, and don’t change your lifestyle just to please others. Those who truly love you will always accept you the way you are.